The experience of sexual assault has adverse short- and long-term health, behavioral, emotional, psychological, and social consequences. It is never easy for someone to discuss the events of an assault. While well-intended, specific language or behavior can cause unintended harm. If someone confides in you about a sexual assault, here are some Do’s and Don’ts to assist them.
Do’s
- Listen closely to what the survivor says without injecting your opinions, feelings.
- Offer your complete and unwavering support.
- Please encourage them to seek medical attention without insisting or trying to force the person to get help. Medical attention is critical for evidence (if charges are going to be filed), detecting sexually transmitted infections, and possibly of pregnancy from the encounter.
- Practicing self-care is critical. Be mindful that a friend/any individual talking to you about being a victim of sexual assault may trigger previous trauma.
Don’ts
- Never force a survivor to talk about the situation or give details.
- Never ask how they feel about the situation.
- Never tell a survivor what to do, nor force them to go to the Police.
- Never say to the survivor to “FORGET ABOUT IT” or “DON’T DISCUSS WITH ANYONE” and move on.
- Don’t criticize or blame them for the situation,
Don’t mention negative phrases in your talk with them like “You shouldn’t have been out alone at night” or “You shouldn’t have worn those clothes.” - Don’t avoid talking to them or listening to what they want to share or explain.
